Learning to love again

An intimate conversation with the visionary behind LM Singles 

Liya Jessen
My name is Liya

Illness changes everything

The summer of 2020 was not only hot but also lifeless for me. After 8 years of declining health, severe pain, and fear, I was finally in an ER, not being able to move my extremities or speak coherently. It truly felt like dying. And as my daughter was waiting in a car in the parking lot of a hospital, I wondered if I would ever see her again.

This was the beginning of my journey to healing chronic Lyme disease.

One moment at a time

What happens when we forget what it’s like to feel alive? To feel energetic and pain-free? When we forget how it felt before the illness or disability covered our eyes with tears and our bodies with scars? Emptiness happens… as we forget how to love and accept love in return. 

But this is where magic happens. This pain and despair (sometimes, of course) take us to the darkest side of human consciousness. We feel alone, at times angry, and, in the end, just plain tired—tired of living. 

Eventually, we start living one moment at a time, one memory at a time, one smile at a time. We are learning to live again. 

Online Dating sucks

Not always, of course. But from my personal experience, online dating or dating in general can be very challenging, and neither an attractive physique nor elevated wisdom can prevent heartbreak, especially if we feel used. 

But dating while living with or recovering from an illness or disability is nothing short of heroism. I applaud you for not giving up on finding the One! And my vision is to give you as many tools as possible to make this happen.  

stop chasing. Start attracting

I truly believe that love is like a butterfly—tender, curious, transformative, and free-roaming. But often, we want to catch it and put it in a glass jar just to declare ownership and keep it within reach. And what happens? We suffocate it… That is why, I believe the best way to attract this beautiful butterfly is to plant a garden. Enrich your environment, grow as an individual, and let the universe guide you toward your most compatible partner. 

That is how the idea behind the Love With Purpose program was born. So, I held my breath and embarked on a three-year journey to discover what it takes to attract the one. 

at the end, it’s all About love

So here I was- turning 40, realizing that I don’t remember my thirties because of illness. Would I do it again? Would I go through these blinding years again just to be where I am right now? I don’t know. But I know one thing: nothing heals until you learn to love yourself. And this is the ultimate gift from the universe- our ability to love. This illness dragged me around for years and, in the end, brought me where I was supposed to be. 

This is how Lamanche was born. A tapestry of time, saturated with human memories and dreams, the English Channel reflects our struggles and victories. Lamanche Singles is here to remind you that no matter what happens to us, we will not “go gentle into that good night”. 

Until we meet again! Liya 


Do not go gentle into that good night,” by Dylan Thomas